Some people have endured situations that have caused great emotional, physical, mental or financial damage to them that moving forward and living a fulfilled life seems like a struggle. Though they are tangled in the web of their unfair past, they must fight to break free. An unfair past doesn’t have to be determinant of an unfair/ uncertain future. Change is possible with enough determination, the right attitude, lots of hard work and emotional support.
It sucks that life is not always fair: bad things happen to good people. For example, instances of abuse and various types of loss. These are traumatic events that affect people’s life drastically, and moving ahead takes great effort. It will not be easy, but still doable. No one should allow the past actions of others to single-handedly dictate their future.
We can always change our circumstances. How many people say that they are this way today because that is how they were raised? Yes, that is a factor, but doesn’t mean that they still can’t change. They can turn things around and re-learn things, if they sincerely want to change the future.
I know a few men who were raised without their fathers and today they are very good family men , they are good fathers to their children, and good husbands to their wives. They didn’t follow the path that was paved by their past. They carved their own future by making a conscious decision.
That shows that though people who were raised one way, once they reach adulthood, they can make a difference and do the right thing. They never dwell on their unfair past. They wanted better. And, the made it happen.
Leaving the unfair past behind requires getting to know and love ourselves, building up our self-confidence or self –esteem, and knowing that when we are heavily burdened to seek help from others. We all must be willing to do whatever is required to move forward from a bad situation.
We just shouldn’t allow ourselves to be held hostage to our past. We have to fight to reclaim our lives, especially when bad things were imposed on us by other people’s selfish acts.
Moving away from an unfair past requires changing the way we do things, moving away from the people who have caused us pain, letting go of useless baggage, or the things that have stunted our growth so that we can embrace a future that is fair.
Sometimes, our misfortunes are self-imposed. We can’t always blame our pitfalls on someone else, though it is always easier to do so. We all know that sometimes good people do bad things.
Good people also make poor decision making/bad choices, or mistakes. It could be blowing that inheritance, or racking up insurmountable debts, or shoplifting, or just choosing bad partner or lifestyle, or wasting years partying without focusing on the future etc.
When we do things that have adverse effects on our lives, it may be hard to let go and forgive ourselves, because we are riddled with guilt, shame and regret. But even then, we still have to be determined to carve out our own future and leave the past behind.
It starts with forgiving and committing ourselves to positive change in our lives by identifying and fixing our problems.
Leaving the unfair past behind requires that that we surround ourselves with positive people, and also an environment where we can flourish. If finances are the hindrance to that change, then one must know that even greater emphasis must be placed on working harder at changing from within.
More than ever, inner-strength will be required to fight daily battles to cope with fear and anxiety, and perhaps temptation. Whatever it is, even if the past was unfair, our future can be made better. It is really up to us.y